Scox’s silent treatment was intertwined with stonewalling, and hidden under the guise of anger management (“I need to calm down!”). He would leave for indefinite periods of time, and if I dared bring up the subject again when he returned, I’d be subjected to the same routine all over again.
In the back of my mind, I knew what he was doing, which was bared plain when (actually trusting his excuses for it) I took a page out of his book after deciding I’d had enough and leaving that first time, to make certain that when I did respond to his messages, I had a calm, well thought out response, as I was setting a very important boundary with him. He called it “the silent treatment” when I didn’t respond to him for a much shorter amount of time than some of his had lasted (I truly just wanted long enough to draft my message and run it past a couple friends to ensure clarity and lack of anger in my writing). When he read the message, even more ridiculous was his claim that I wanted him to “treat [my] feelings like a queen” simply because my boundary was “stop with the constant unsolicited criticism.” Apparently, respecting me as a fellow human being was just too much to ask of him.
Tattered Firefly 